Couples Therapy & Intentional Relationship Therapy in Brooklyn
For Monogamous, Polyamorous, and Those Who Haven’t Got a Title
Relationships are one of the most profound things we do as human beings. They're also one of the hardest.
Whether something specific has happened — a rupture, a betrayal, a slow drift apart — or it's more of a quiet feeling that something isn't working, couples therapy is a space to slow down, get honest, and figure out what you actually want and need from each other.
At Cabezas Therapy, we work with relationships across all structures. That's not a footnote — it's central to who we are.
Who we work with:
Monogamous couples navigating communication, conflict, intimacy, and trust
Partners transitioning between relationship structures
Polyamorous relationships — dyads, triads, quads, polycules
Ethically non-monogamous and open relationships
Relationship anarchists and solo poly folks
Situationships and partnerships that don't have a name yet
Co-parents trying to maintain connection while raising kids
Couples considering separation who want to make a thoughtful decision
We don't assume your relationship structure is the problem. We start with what works for you and build from there.
Trauma and relationships
A lot of what shows up in relationships didn't start there. Childhood wounds, past losses, experiences of abuse or neglect — these shape how we attach, how we fight, how we shut down, and how we love. When both partners carry that history, the cycles can get complicated fast.
And most of us are carrying something. Big T trauma: the experiences that are obviously life-altering. Little t trauma: the quieter, more chronic wounds that don't always get named but shape us just as deeply. Either way, you are more than what happened to you.
We work at the intersection of trauma and relationships — helping partners understand not just what's happening between them, but where it comes from. We don't reduce people to their histories. We look at the fullness of who you are and build from there. Sometimes that means individual therapy alongside couples work. We'll talk through what makes sense for you.
Our approach:
We draw from a wide range of evidence-based frameworks — not because we apply them all at once, but because people are different and one size has never fit all.
Our work is influenced by Internal Family Systems (IFS), Attachment Theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, Imago Relationship Therapy, Relational Life Therapy, and Intersectional Feminism — held together by a person-centered, trauma-informed foundation that keeps you, not the model, at the center.
What that means in practice is that we meet you where you are. We're not fitting you into a framework — we're using the best of what we know to help you understand yourself, your patterns, and your relationships more clearly.
We work with your actual values, your actual structure, and your actual life. Not inherited scripts about what a relationship or a person is supposed to look like.
FAQs
Frequently Asked Questions
Is couples therapy only for people who are in crisis? Not at all. Some people come to us in the middle of a real rupture — infidelity, a major fight, a breaking point. Others come because things are mostly okay but they want to communicate better, reconnect, or have a dedicated space to work on their relationship before things get hard. Some people come in because they want someone to help facilitate or give them tools for playful reconnection. All are valid reasons to start. You don't have to be falling apart to deserve support.
Do you work with polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships? Yes — and we mean that genuinely, not as a footnote. We work with relationships across all structures: monogamous, polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous, open, relationship anarchists, solo poly, and everything in between. You won't spend your sessions explaining or defending your relationship structure to us. We start from where you are.
What therapeutic approaches do you use for couples work? Our clinicians draw from a range of evidence-based frameworks including Internal Family Systems (IFS), Attachment Theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, Imago Relationship Therapy, Relational Life Therapy, and Intersectional Feminism. We don't apply one model rigidly — we use what fits you and your relationship best, held together by a person-centered, trauma-informed foundation.
How do I find a couples therapist in Brooklyn who gets my relationship? That's exactly the right question to ask. At Cabezas we match you with a clinician based on your specific situation — reach out and tell us a little about what you're looking for and we'll find the right fit.
Do you work with LGBTQ+ couples? Yes, fully and without qualification. We are an LGBTQ+ affirming practice with experience working with queer relationships, identity-related trauma, and the specific dynamics that come up for LGBTQ+ couples and partners.
What if one of us has trauma and the other doesn't? Honestly? It's pretty rare for only one person in a relationship to have a trauma history. Most of us are carrying something — big T trauma: the experiences that are obviously life-altering, or little t trauma: the quieter, more chronic wounds that don't always get named but shape us just as deeply. Either way, you are more than what happened to you.
What differs is how it shows up. How we attach, how we communicate, how we shut down, how we love — all of that is informed by what we've lived through. When two people bring their histories into a relationship, the dynamics can get layered and complicated in ways that are hard to see from inside it.
We don't reduce people to their trauma. We look at the fullness of who you are — your strengths, your story, your relationship — and we help both partners understand what's happening and where it comes from, without blame.
Do you offer individual therapy alongside couples work? Yes. Sometimes the most effective path is a combination of individual and couples therapy. We'll talk through what makes sense for your situation and can coordinate care across both if needed.
Do you offer sessions in languages other than English? Yes. We offer therapy in English, Spanish, and Portuguese. If language has been a barrier to finding the right therapist, we want to know.
How much does couples therapy cost at Cabezas? Sessions range from $50 to $500, depending on the clinician and type of service. We have providers across a range of fee levels and a waitlist for sliding scale spots. If cost is a concern, reach out — we'll figure out what's possible.
Do you offer online couples therapy in New York? Yes. We offer virtual sessions for individuals and couples across all of New York State. If you're not in Brooklyn or prefer to meet remotely, telehealth is a fully supported option.
How do we get started? Book a free 15-minute consultation through our contact page. Tell us a little about your relationship and what you're looking for, and we'll match you with the right therapist. You don't have to have it figured out before you reach out — that's what the consultation is for.