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Hello, my name is Julian Cabezas. I'm a psychotherapist practicing in California and New York. My focus is on relationships internally and externally. So internally, that can mean kind of the relationship between the voices, the impulses, or the energies within us. So that can look like, let's say that you really want to do something new, but you're afraid of pursuing it. But you're also afraid of what would happen if you didn't pursue it, right? If you held back, and there's a struggle between the two, and you kind of feel maybe like stuck in that struggle.

Or maybe there's a conflict between, you know, the career you want to have, but also the life you want to have, and that these two things are, they seem like at odds, right? And you keep trying to figure out how to do it, and you find it’s really tough, right? You can feel stuck in that as well. Or you love using drugs maybe, but you're also noticing that there's something about it that's holding you back from maybe certain ways of living, or shared ways of connecting, or the way that you're using it is interfering with the way that you want to live, yeah?

And so there might be a tension there and that's just a few examples. I think people have so many. But it's basically that. It's like kind of creating this internal harmony and seeing parts of us get along, and parts of us don't, and how that's showing up. Then we think about the roots, when you’re ready, right? What the root of the ways that we're living, how those came to be. And then similarly, I also work with external relationships, which is basically I work doing relationship therapy with two or more humans in the space. ( doggy friends who are potty trained and can keep indoor voices also welcomed inside our office)

So I'm working with couples, I'm working with friends, I work with family members. You know, I think the same way we get caught up inside, we can get caught up with people in front of us. So I try to create the space where I can help facilitate those conversations. I don't know what the answers are. I've read lots, romance and relationships have been a special interest of mine all my life, I'm married and work this stuff out with my partner every day, I love learning about our brains, culture, hearts, and spirituality as well. But just because I've read a bunch that doesn't mean I know specifically who you are, and what you want, and what your passions are, and what kind of triggers you got, or what makes you feel comfortable, right? And actually, that's one of the things I love about therapy is my curiosity about learning and getting to know someone so intimately, if they want to be known.

I believe that if we can, if we have more loving relationships, then I think that doesn't just help us individually, it helps the people in our direct circles, it helps the people outside of the circles, it really ripples out. So that's, that's something that I'm passionate about in the way that I see it. So people be like, well, what do you work with? What are the issues? And I think that I'm kind of open to what comes up, because I don't even know, someone might come up, come in for opening up their relationship, abandonment, wanting to try ketamine psychotherapy, infidelity, or worry, or anxiety, or depression, or, you know, or the traumatic event.

And when I, when we talk, we just see that there's, the thing about the thing is, it's not the thing. So it might be a string of things. I love learning different modalities. I've studied CBT, DBT, EMDR, somatics, brain spotting, sex therapy, ketamine assisted psychotherapy, modality of choice, I would say, I'm an internal family systems therapist, and then I weave in things that could be helpful, right? For people figuring out what works for you, because learning styles is really important.

And I'll link an article if you want to learn more about what internal family systems is, or we can talk and, you know, we can learn in real time. I feel like, oh, and in terms of identity, I work also through an intersectional feminist lens. So it might be helpful to center some of my things. I am a queer person, I'm trans, I am a parent. I care about people. I'm nerdy. I work in community and feel part of the community of neurodivergent, neurodiverse folks.

I hope that some of this was helpful for you. I know that it's not always easy to get to know people, to reach out, to do this process. So if I can make it any easier, please, please reach out. Also, I am the founder and clinical director of Cabezas Therapy. So I work on a team. We have multiple team members who have a wealth of knowledge, both professionally, but also personally. So even if I'm not the person that works with you, there might be a member of our team that also can work with you or works in a different modality.

So that can be from other licensed psychotherapists that I work with. And then also, we work therapists in training from graduate programs across the US, and more specifically in New York. They are graduating year clinical students who are really passionate about doing work. So feel free to also reach out to them. They're amazing. And yeah, take care. Thank you.